Relationship: Break Up or Playing up?

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This morning, I was chatting with a friend today whom is facing problem with the boyfriend. Initially, I thought that they were breaking up but it was not. She want the boyfriend to spend more times with her as the bf is spending most of the times at work. She was not happy at all.

So i have asked her the following quesitons:

1. Do you love him? Does he love you?
2. Are you happy with him? Now? and Future? Future may be a bit tough!
3. Is the man you want?
4. Do you think he will be a good husband?
5. Are both of you still communicating?

To my surprise, she said good things about the bf. I am really amazed.

She said that he is
1. Better than last time. Wow! What be bad or worse in the past! It make her feel better. Wow!
2. He is more confident person!?

In the ending, she was complaining the bf does not understanding the feeling. I suggested the following to her:
1. Seat down and talk
2. Weighs the happy times and not happy times
3. what is good about and not good about him? Like the Pros and Cons!?
4. Lastly, i told her to study herself too. What are the Pros and Cons too? As one says "Understand yourself first before understanding others".

The statement of the day from her bf:

"This morning, the bf told me to let me choose a man who can put up me in the first place!"

It is a relationship and not a game! I told to think seriously and she agreed.

What do you think out there? Any other comments?

Cheers.